triangles or cubes

I love the exam period; it leaves me with tons of alone time that I haven't had i a long while, who cares if I have to study. Introverts need space to recharge.

Anyway one of the reasons for self-imposed exile to the Land of Coffee, apart from the construction works going on around (no) thanks to lift upgrading and whatever crunchy carrot we got from letting PAP have a walkover, is to avoid getting triangulated into my parents' business.

You see, (washing dirty laundry time), my parents have a habit of sucking individuals in to their couple-dom to distract themselves from the lack of communication/ dysfunctional interaction patterns in their marriage. For a long time now, it was my poor little brother who was the focus of their 'distraction'. Now that he is gone off to Army Land, I have the uncanny suspicion that pretty soon, they will try to use me to mediate or whatever crap.

Just last week I was caught in the middle of something that was way better than any of the role plays we did for Person Centred Couples' Counselling. I, the pleasantly surprised in-between, realised that PCC or whatever counseling method is of rubbish use to people who are biting off each others' heads.

The stubborn silence that comes next is when I do all my behind-the-scenes placating, reflection of feeling, 'let's try to think of it from the other person's point of view' thing, which is absolutely tiring, plus, it's not within my position to do it either. I don't know why I still do. Maybe because the whole 'saviour mentality' of my classmates are rubbing off. Or maybe it's because I just want to test all the family therapy models that I've learnt because I've got real-life unsuspecting guinea pigs. Either way it doesn't change the fact that it's tiring, and I have to consciously try to make myself feel better about doing it.

They follow the cycle of violence actually. The explosion, then the honeymoon period, then the tension building - repeat ad infinitum ad nauseum. Now they are quite in the honeymoon phase, considering their last explosion was not too long ago. With my dad having exams coming up the tension is going to build as his stress levels increase, so I am judiciously staying out of the way.

That brings us to the question - what's the draw of the triangle/threesome?

I don't know. There's the divine Trinity, God the Father, Son and Holy Spirit, and they're pretty tight and in sync. Then on the mortal plane I hang out with Hawke and King of Northern Lions (KNL), and our threesome is such that of a rubric cube that solves itself by the end of the hangout session. I think. Or rather, even if the rubric cube doesn't solve itself it is happy just being a rubric cube.

What I'm trying to say is that I think triangles work well when there's an equally good relationship between all, and the positive and negative aspects of each relationship are balanced. Inflows and outflows of each relationship in the triangle must be of similar level, to a certain degree.

But who cares about analysis. I'm just scrupulously trying to avoid any possible potential situation that I can get triangled into. Sometimes I force myself into the triangle, like to rescue my brother (He will never admit he needs saving because he has developed his own Coping Mechanism) but in times of high energy outflows, like during exams, give me a square anytime.